Hugging Life Snapshot Pre-Assessment

Look at the following domains and rate them on a scale of 1-7 in your life today.

A “7” represents that this area of your life is going extremely well. You feel at peace in this area, confident in both your overall direction and life choices.

Whereas, “1” means that you are extremely disappointed with this area of your life, and it weighs on you heavily on a daily basis.

This gives you an overall snapshot on how you view yourself currently and also serves to help you understand where you might be needing a hug of forgiveness.

Below is my Hugging Life Snapshot Pre-Assessment which is a powerful tool to understand what you will choose to focus on in your 21-Day Hugging Journey.  At the end of the journey, you’ll rate these categories again to evaluate the level of transformation you’ve experienced.

Remember the 21-Day Hugging Journey is to get you in action.  You may start your first journey focused on health, and after completing it decide you’d like to do another one on your relationship or career. Have faith in how the 21-Day Hugging Journey process unfolds for you organically.

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Health – 3.0 – I don’t like my thighs because they seem too big and out of proportion and I’m worried about my lungs because I am a smoker and my liver because I think I may drink too much especially when I am worried about my favorite uncle and his upcoming divorce after being married (happily I thought) for 23 years.

Family – 7.0 – no brainer, I’d like to spend even more time with them and we are so close and I feel very lucky and happy.

Career– 5.0 – Blessed and fortuitous on some levels, good job, pays well, solid benefits and some flexibility with my work hours – feel good about going to work and that I am doing something meaningful although not sure it is the right career for me or my “dream job.”  Have been there for 12 years now and I am not sure if I am comfortable in my job or that’s a rationalization and I am actually afraid of change.

Personal Development – 4.0 – I try to spend some time daily gaining knowledge from audio books and NPR often it gets away from me and I’d like more consistency and not to spend so much time on what feels like busy work.

Friends – 4.0 – I have lost some friends that I wouldn’t have expected to lose in the most recent years – just by growing apart – I don’t do particularly well with long distance miss some of my college and high school buddies and feel like life is moving too fast to connect and not sure if they want to as much as I do.  Did go on a trip to California with a close friend and we reconnected and had a great time.

Finances – 5.0 – Room to be better and I can’t complain too much – Feel good about earning and not spending although having 3 kids and knowing that college is only a few years around the corner is pretty daunting, we have been saving and still it stresses me out a few days a week.

Spiritual dev – 6.0 – I go to church almost every Sunday.  Sometimes I feel like I am just doing it because that is how I was raised.  And the sermon usually is meaningful and helps me to be grateful and focus on what really matters.  Not sure how I feel about God and I do feel connected to the church and I know it grounds me.  I feel like I often see the spiritual side of things and this helps me to take life in stride and remember the bigger picture.

Intimacy – 5.0 – Relationships with people and connections is pretty good and kind of casual they could be deeper or more meaningful I guess.

Self-care – 4.0   I enjoy being active and I go on hikes pretty regularly- still I know that I smoke and drink too much and that it is messing with me.

Romance – 1.0 – Well for where I am at in my marriage I think we are having sex pretty regularly and we both still really enjoy it, but there really isn’t much romance it’s more like routine.  I definitely want to cut down on the smoking because I don’t think it helps from the romance angle and I want to try some new and different things and surprise my partner.  Wow, I had no idea I would have rated this so low considering we have really good sex.

Fitness  – 3.0 – Probably rate it this way because I have always wanted to run a marathon and I never have.  My son is an athlete and I’d like for us to train and run one together, but I’ve never even told him my dream and I’m not sure why.  If I was in condition and training daily with him and then could actually have fun running a marathon, that would be a 10 for me.  It now occurs to me that I am definitely going to talk to my son and start that conversation.  In fact I know of a 1/2 marathon coming up in about 6 months and I’m going to train for it and my son can join me if he wants to.  I was just reminded of how it felt to be on the track team in high school and how much I love to run, if my son wants to do it with me that would be icing on the cake.

Social – 6.0 – I’m pretty social and I think I am easy to talk to and enjoy my friends and social activities, but a lot of the time I don’t set anything up and I like my alone time as well.

Life purpose – 5.0 – Well, I go to church regularly and the sermons are meaningful to me and we give a good amount of charity and I do some volunteering.  Sometimes though I just feel like whats the point am I making a difference, does any of this really matter.  I guess moving towards a 7 would be aligning what I am doing at work more with what really matters to me.  Or maybe I need to start to consider other job possibilities.  I’m super passionate about the charity I work with helping kids who have a parent with a drug addiction.  The board did have a paid opening and I was tempted by it, but I guess scared, I need to check if that is still open and even what it pays or if they would consider me.  It would be a big change and yet I think it might be time for the next chapter in my life.

Physical Environment – 3.0  Home is good.  I’m happy in my house and I feel at peace.  I love my study and the family room.  We do need to paint the outside of the house and that bugs me, because it is way overdue and on my list of things to do.  The big issue is work.  I am in a cubicle and I have no windows.  I feel like when I am there sometimes that I am like a flower that is wilting because of the artificial lights.  Supposedly it is temporary and we are going to have a state of the art facility in which I will have a window with a view, but they have been talking about that for over a year now and haven’t even broken ground on the new facility.  Sometimes I just want to bang my head on my desk.  I do my best to get outside and take a walk, but most of the time I am just too damn busy and I eat lunch at my desk.  I can feel my blood starting to boil as I am thinking about this I think I need to move it down to a 3.0 or less.  I mean I spend like 60 hours a week in that f’ing cubicle.

Great work.  Now that you have completed your ratings you have a tool to help you to choose what you want to focus on in your first 21 day hugging journey.  You may pick one specific domain such as JJ did in focusing on her mother and getting closer to her.  You may also choose a number of domains that resonate for you and work at improving your fitness, finances and physical environment.  The challenge is to choose what feels right to work on, right now,  and do so in a way holding yourself accountable and steadily moving forward.  In addition, when you don’t have steady movement being radically transparent about why you might have gotten stuck and putting a plan in place to support you on the next day of your hugging journey.

Each person’s journey is unique to them, and notice that forgiving yourself and forgiveness are a big part of the journey to let us each fully embrace this moment and what really matters to us most.